I have been meaning to write this post for ages. I knew the minute that I saw +Demi Lovato's image stating that "Love is Louder than the Pressure to be Perfect" that I wanted to talk about this as I feel that in this day and age there is so much pressure in society to be something else. 

This movement has been ongoing for sometime and it stems from The JED Foundations' project "Love is Louder."

“There’s a ton of pressure out there to meet impossible standards. To look right, be smart, be thin, talented and popular. And many of us feel like we have to be everything to everyone, but it doesn’t have to be that way. When the pressure to be perfect is overwhelming, find an outlet. I love to paint, but there are also other ways to relieve that pressure. You can sing, dance, act, draw, shoot photos, write or run.”

My take on this is very similar. I don't believe that conditioning ourselves to conform with societies ideals is the way forward.  We were born unique for a reason. I have witnessed so many confident displays of individuality, originality, beautiful imperfection and every statement is testament that love truly is louder.  So many people strive to please others to the detriment of their own self-worth.  Being happy is not a quality that should be sacrificed.  You may not always be everyone's cup of tea and that is okay. Strive to be happy and confident and dare to be different rather than blindly following trend. I personally don't think there is "perfection" as such, because people's idea of perfection is different.  I can be happy with my imperfection and that doesn't make me worth any less than the next person.  

We, as people are constantly changing, evolving and that is the nature of world. The few consistencies remain. We all deserve love, respect and require nurturing and support.  Confidence can come in waves. One day you could be abundantly overflowing with high self-esteem and the next day you could be feeling low and questioning your path in life. We are human. Emotive beings whose feelings sculpt our every move.  

I have found that surrounding myself with positive people, rebuking negativity and empowering others is my key to happiness. 

I have down days, I have parts of myself that I love less than others. I have personality traits that breed negative thoughts. I have people who doubt my capability or my intentions.  I strive to accept the things I cannot change and work hard to improve the things I can.  All the while I CHOOSE to be happy.  I choose to fk the haters!  I choose to uplift others so they can become the best versions of themselves possible.  I choose self worth, acceptance and most importantly I CHOOSE LOVE!

xXx

New Video up on YouTube talking about learning to love yourself, filming this video was prompted by reading some of the comments on a recent FB comment thread within a plus size group.  This video is meant for anyone who is struggling with accepting who they are or finding it hard to love themselves.  I hope that you reach out....

I'm here xx