Love is Louder than the Pressure to be Perfect


I have been meaning to write this post for ages. I knew the minute that I saw +Demi Lovato's image stating that "Love is Louder than the Pressure to be Perfect" that I wanted to talk about this as I feel that in this day and age there is so much pressure in society to be something else. 

This movement has been ongoing for sometime and it stems from The JED Foundations' project "Love is Louder."

Demi said;
“There’s a ton of pressure out there to meet impossible standards. To look right, be smart, be thin, talented and popular. And many of us feel like we have to be everything to everyone, but it doesn’t have to be that way. When the pressure to be perfect is overwhelming, find an outlet. I love to paint, but there are also other ways to relieve that pressure. You can sing, dance, act, draw, shoot photos, write or run.”

My take on this is very similar. I don't believe that conditioning ourselves to conform with societies ideals is the way forward.  We were born unique for a reason. I have witnessed so many confident displays of individuality, originality, beautiful imperfection and every statement is testament that love truly is louder.  So many people strive to please others to the detriment of their own self-worth.  Being happy is not a quality that should be sacrificed.  You may not always be everyone's cup of tea and that is okay. Strive to be happy and confident and dare to be different rather than blindly following trend. I personally don't think there is "perfection" as such, because people's idea of perfection is different.  I can be happy with my imperfection and that doesn't make me worth any less than the next person.  

We, as people are constantly changing, evolving and that is the nature of world. The few consistencies remain. We all deserve love, respect and require nurturing and support.  Confidence can come in waves. One day you could be abundantly overflowing with high self-esteem and the next day you could be feeling low and questioning your path in life. We are human. Emotive beings whose feelings sculpt our every move.  

I have found that surrounding myself with positive people, rebuking negativity and empowering others is my key to happiness. 

I have down days, I have parts of myself that I love less than others. I have personality traits that breed negative thoughts. I have people who doubt my capability or my intentions.  I strive to accept the things I cannot change and work hard to improve the things I can.  All the while I CHOOSE to be happy.  I choose to fk the haters!  I choose to uplift others so they can become the best versions of themselves possible.  I choose self worth, acceptance and most importantly I CHOOSE LOVE!


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  1. Oh Kat you are a ray of sunshine! I so often have down days and wonder if there is any point of picking myself up again - but words of kindness and love from you and others in the body positive community always lift my spirits! I had my confidence knocked after taking a risk recently but I'm realising dwelling on it is a waste of my energy! Thank you for this post and all that you do! Xxx

  2. Can I get an amen! In the words of the wisest drag queen of them all 'if you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?'

    Amazing post queenie xx

  3. Surrounding myself with positive people has done me the world of good, such an important message!


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